You don't seem to get it... submission is something I enjoy fully in a relationship. It's not like I want to have kinky sex within a "vanilla" relationship, I want the whole nine yards- But it IS animal urges and instincts that guides all this- animal urges guide emotions in the same wau they guide sex. Why philosophize something that needs no philosophizing? You submit, and you either get off sexually or just feel very content, or hopefully both, just like the rest of us.