Quote Originally Posted by Austerus View Post
Remember hiko, men have a lifetime of social conditioning to make them believe that women are fragile little flowers who need to always be protected , taken care of, and spoken to politely (this conditioning ignores inconvenient facts like women's higher pain tolerance.) A lot of the same qualities that make your man someone you want to be with...that he wants good things for you, cares about you, is most likely respectful toward you...combine with this conditioning to make it difficult for him to dominate you.
You know... this is SO true. I once had a Dom tell me that it was hard for most men, based on how they were raised, etc. to beat a woman (in pleasure) one night and then sit across the breakfast table the next morning and look her in the eye. Especially if there was physical evidence of what had happened.

And... I do karate, and based on my height (5'10") I end up paired with men 95% of the time for sparring, practice, etc. It has taken me almost a full year but I have now convinced (or perhaps proven) to 3 men in the class that I spar with regularly that I am not going to break if they strike me, especially with gear on. I finally asked one of them flat out, "Would you rather I die if someone attacked me just so you don't have to feel bad about bruising me a bit?" That was an extreme but based on the mindset I had to really convince them that 1) I could take it and 2) I needed too to learn. *covering up the huge bruise on my forearm from today's class.... *

So... after that ramble (sorry)... lol. Not sure I have an answer either... just patience and talking...