Advice from the Poly people?

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I'm not an expert like Rhabbi, but since wifey and I are looking for a situation not dissimilar to the one you've found, here are some thoughts from our search:

1. I recommend the book "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt:
http://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-I.../dp/1890159018

2. If your potential girlfriend is submissive, and you're worried about your husband's feelings, is there a way he could take her on as a second sub? Does that interest either of them? Since you'd both be doing what you're told, this might be easier. You could still be dominant to her within that context, or not.

That's a "nope" -- she is also married, and her husband is very much opposed to the idea of her with other guys. Among other problems. But as a fantasy I could do worse.

3. Assuming you can get away without an emotional attachment to someone you're sleeping with, regardless of gender, is dangerous. But there's no need to.

Assuming instead that you have enough genuine love in you to give all of it to more than one person, and have some to spare, is more likely to be true. For many people, it's obviously true. But not for everyone. Your mileage may vary. Know yourself.

Thanks for the advice. I have known lots of people who've gotten burned by expecting a "no strings attached" fling -- I hope that I'm being slightly more realistic.