I'm definitely high-maintenance in the sense of needing a lot of attention and reassurance. I think it's important for anyone in a BDSM relationship to be able to speak up when he/she needs to be reassured or comforted, because what is obviously joking or playful to one person could touch on a sore spot for someone else, and we don't know until someone tells us where those lines are. This is especially important in my relationship because we both have more baggage than a 747. Both of us would prefer being told "hey, quit saying that, it's upsetting me" or "um, you don't *really* think I'm a slut, do you?" to being told "I think I need to go back to therapy." Know what I mean?