Holy crap you guys are great. After reading both responses I have a lot to think about and a lot to consider. The list that you guys gave me is the kinda thing that I have been looking for as well. Me and my significant other for lack of better terms did talk today. It was mostly relaxed but also a bit guarded. For now its best if we just work on the good part of our relationship which is communication. Which also includes me becoming a better listener. However I will continue to check this site because of the advice given and also mainly because of my very genuine interest into BDSM. Part of it due to me being a psych major and battling hard to make sure people understand that you can be A Sado Masochist without needing counseling. Damn narrowminded people but oh well what can you do. Thanks again for the responses and I will think about all the suggestions and questions asked.

Adrian