I'm the same as submissivewife. 5 years into a difficult marraige, our love life had gone south....so, after remembering when I had "played" mildly with a former boyfriend....suggested to my husband that we try something new, each trying both roles to see who fit what, he wanted to Top first, and since then (2 years, now!) has adamantly refused to switch with me. Hmmm, I guess he likes it! LOL