Before I met my now master and husband, I was in a relationship with an abusive, insecure, control freak asshole person.
That man changed my attitude toward new people (not only lovers! in general!) from "I think you are a nice person until you prove me the opposite" to "I think you are an asshole until you prove me the opposite... and mind, youŽll have to try VERY hard".

It takes time to learn to trust again. By little steps. Then you see the new man does not take advantage of the weakness you bared, and you are more brave next time. Again - it takes time. And a person who is willing to take you as you are. Not a person who is just seeking a brainless, spineless toy.

Mind, the toy-seekers are the ones who call me "not really devote", or "pretty big-mouthed for a sub".

It is a kind of test. If you call yourself a male Dom, and are scared by me, or let me push you into an uncontrolled state of mind, you are a weakling and a coward and therefore not worth my time and love.

Those toy-seekers will never be able to even begin to imagine what I am like toward my real master. And tell you what? I am VERY glad about that fact!

Kind regards
Arria