Originally Posted by delia
Do you ENJOY submission? Does your arrangement work for you? If it does, then who cares what anyone calls it. Maybe you feel submissive only on certain days in certain ways in certain places. Are you only a 1/3 submissive? Hell no. You are a submissive who lives in reality.


Quote Originally Posted by tessa View Post
This idea of yours, delia, is one of the reasons why I posed the question in the first place. Why is it for anyone else to quantify or qualify another's most deeply held feelings and thoughts? My answer? It's not. We are who we are. There shouldn't be a label placed on it at all.

tessa
It took me a long time to realize that there was no definitive guideline as to how submissive I was supposed to be.

There is the other side of the coin however.
Maybe I just don't fully understand it yet, but when there is no one on the receiving end to appreciatate your submissiveness then it just seems futile.
How can you understand and feel submissive when the other person will not respond.

It's hard to continue on as if things are normal, and try to maintain whatever you can out of it.
I have tried, but in the end I feel useless, betrayed and inadequate