Quote Originally Posted by FurryFury
I think one big hang up with life partners is they feel they are not supposed to hurt you or they are worried they will lose control and go too far. If you have a safe word then he could possibly feel a little more relaxed about proceeding.
I think the fear of hurting is definitely a factor. I may need to put more emphasis on how safewords work.

Thanks so much for all of your input and ideas. I particularly like the idea of a checklist - useful input from both people.