Quote Originally Posted by wingsofanangel View Post
I agree. Sir Russell

and about the earlier conversation about women and taboos and such:

I have known since I was like... 7 that I was a submissive girl.

I loved watching "beauty and beast" it turned me on... how submissive belle had to be to beast.

even as a child I understood it.

My family believed in the theory or idea of the man working and running the house while the wife cooks and cleans and all that jazz. It was a very loving family and I love growing up in that sort of lifestyle.

I have always know that I wanted to be the 1950's kind of wife... so the kinky sex part is an added bonus..

While I am not perfect by any means and I am not the wife I want to be.. YET.. I am working towards it and show my submission in the little things..

and my gosh little by little hubby is catching on and he so very much is enjoying it both in and out of the bedroom. YES!
And my family dynamic was almost opposite. My father left when I was 2, had very little future contact with him. My mom was a single parent doing the best she could to raise my brother and I in a VERY small town and yet in many ways she was still a "Leave it to Beaver" type of mom, always involved, etc. My grandparents lived close (normally across the street... lol) but my grandmother was ALWAYS the one forced into may decisions because my grandfather didn't want too, etc. (Yep, I married my grandfather in some ways... lol.)

But, the one thing, even as strong and independent both of them said continually was "It would be nice to have someone to take care of me and make the decisions."

Then I saw it as... "you have to be a strong independent woman to survive because the opposite sex (or anyone) can't really be counted on to do it for you." Looking back now though I see that they both were caught, in the same circumstances that my "independent woman" thinking has lead me to be caught in. They both wanted to submit in many ways and yet, based on circumstances and life choices, couldn't.

So, understanding that, I know have to decide which is the best option (or combination of the two) that is right for me. And, in talking to them about it (although somewhat indirectly) neither of them understand why I would "let" someone have that much control while at the same time both agree that it would free me greatly to have someone capable (trusting?) to give that too.

ACK... just realized how off topic I wondered...sorry!