Wedjat,

Most of us that are experienced in the life try to preach that it is different for each person and couple. There aren't any rules about how you must be in this life only personal guidelines and goals.

What I think you are hearing is a lot of submissive doubting themselves, I call it subbie disease, and most of the best ones do. None of us are perfect but the difference here is that the best of all of us strive to be the Best we can be to improve ourselves.

I agree you may never get to be the submissive that will please the very hard core Dom but I know that you can please most of the Doms if you decide it is for you.