Dear Sir_Russel,

I meant the same thing but most likely put it poorly. I certainly didn't mean to suggest that Doms equal abusers...there is such a big difference, and I find it regrettable and annoying at the same time that BDSM is often put into the "abuse" category. What I meant was that if they counted the abusers as Doms there would be more "Doms" (not the real ones but the fake, abusive ones) statistically for subs...ugh, I doubt that makes much more sense now