In answer to the above, no one should feel lonely whatever they write. The only problems arise from dummies who cannot tell fact from fiction. Very hypocritical isn't it that fussy people may condemn stories of sexual abuse, but don't read a James Bond novel and promptly phone the cops screaming they've discovered a terrorist plot to take over the world.

As for abusing women, as a man I am quite happy for stories of women abusing men. I'm not a fan of scat, but I defend a person's right to write about it. Ideally I'd like to see much more feedback, but principally comments relating to grammar, composition, spelling and clarity of plot etc. There is no benefit at all from comments like "I don't approve of this type of story" because the story is FICTION, there is nobody for the cops to rescue and psychopaths don't need fiction to go beserk and abuse people. They did nasty things thousands of years before printing or the internet came along.
And yes, the rating system could be vastly improved, with separate categories for say 'style' 'composition' 'spelling' etc, apart from how well the reader 'got off'.