Myself I prefer the more passionate side to BDSM. I want my dom to be connected with me and I want to know if what he is doing to me is exciting to him. Knowing that the dom is pleased with not only what he is doing to me but also that I am performing well for him is the best part of it. I think it is very important to a sub to know that the dom is reacting "passionately" what is going on.

If others prefer a disconnected dom then that is their preference mine is quite the opposite.