Quote Originally Posted by Blue_Monday
I think BaldJean has a point there. To some extent, I feel safer when I know my partner isn't carried away with his passion--I know that he's in control. If the Dom isn't controlling things (including himself!), then who is?

Maybe because I consider a lack of passion a sign of control, I most often fantasize about passionless men--scientists, etc.

I do, of course, want my partner to enjoy himself, satisfy himself, and, very importantly, to love me and care about me. If I thought that he really were cold or uncaring, then I wouldn't feel safe.

When I play the Domme, I am a bit on the cold side myself. I just don't feel like I'm in control if I'm overcome with emotion or pleasure. I really want to take my baby on a roller-coaster ride, and I feel like it's my job to keep my feet on the ground the whole time.

But.... maybe we're all just defining passion differently. If passion means losing control, I don't really like it in BDSM. If it means deep love, caring, respect, and enjoyment, then I consider it a necessity!
I like your point Blue....and you are right control is very important and we all probably are defining passion differently. Controlling both negative and positive passions is imparative. I mean if you don't control the positive passions they can have negative connotations and not controlling the negative passion.....well, we won't go there not a pretty picture.