This is a good thread and interesting because I feel that this issue is more gender driven then anything else. Women are always going to be more emotional thus requiring a higher level of passionate/affection then men. (Of course there are exceptions)

I can’t speak for all submissive men but in my 15 plus years as a lifestyle mistress and professional dominatrix at least 8 out of 10 sub males prefer an aloof, cold hearted bitch approach.

Then again generally speaking and gender aside, there are levels of masochism that require a hardcore, non-emotional attitude. Most of what I’m reading here seems to be relationships that already have a lot of passion in them. Still, I’ve seen some heavy player move into space quickly and you’d never know you were seeing the same person.

Personally I prefer a combination of both. When I’m topping someone my hands rarely leave them. I enjoy using a combination of strict, teasing, passion, pain and always a lot of control.

Dianna