Sir_Russell, I find myself agreeing with your thoughts. Though for myself, I have always known I am submissive. It was more that I did not fully understand my own feelings. I was married for 12 yrs to a wonderful man whom I still admire and now consider good friend. It sounds strange, but we are now divorced going on 5 yrs. He was and is not the type of person who could ever be dominant towards me.

It was not till soon after my divorce that I met a man who understood what I was feeling inside and helped me understand my my feelings and submissiveness. I will be forever thankful for his understanding and guidance.

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This may upset quite a few, but I believe that most women hell the vast majority of women are submissive, and since they have been trained to be the same as a male they are unhappy in their life. I have had mostly successful intelligent sub/slaves. It isn't that are they submissive but are they willing and capable to let go and find their happiness and true self.

Conversely I don't know if most males are dominate, I fear that our current culture has trained them to be submissive in a very different way. Males today are trained to say and do anything to get laid. They marry and then find themselves doing things to please her so that she will suck on his cock for a minute or actually spread her legs once a week. oh well I don't work that way and hopefully never will.

Before the internet, open meetings of lifestylers I had to study each woman carefully to see if I could find the traits I wanted. This study lead to the verbal and physical tests to find out not if she was a sub but if she could let go and be true to herself.