I'm kind of surprise to hear you say this. Having been to quite a few other bdsm forums, this is the most down to earth, friendly, and helpful one out there. No dom/mes here require you to call them Sir/Ma'am, unless the sub chooses to. That type of respect has to be earned, not mandated.
I hope you find what you're looking for. As for this forum, you'll likely not find another where the members are so welcoming and warm. IMO.