sidhewolf, each secret has to be judged on it's own merit. In general you're right, but a few are worth keeping, when the truth is hurtful and the secret does no harm save for the fact that it was kept... Lies can be big or exeptionally small. The small ones may be as inoccuous as not liking a gift that was given. Why be hurtful saying so.

However it appears that some of the secrets you've become aware of have in themselves hurt you... perhaps shaken your confidence in your partner? Communication helps... presuming it isn't so gross a lie as to be unforgiveable... But if you talk about it, perhaps you can come to a common point of understanding where you can see how your partner thought the secret was better and he can come to see how it wasn't... and move forward.

moonraker, your perspective just seems too cynical, and manipulative for my tastes. Some might say self-serving... and those kinds of lies and secrets, in my opinion, end up costing you more in the long run than you gain in the short run.