We all started out as wannabees so it is no real shame if you study learn and grow into your version of the real thing, and trust me that take the rest of your life.

Wannabees are dangerous because they don't have any experience but the real danger normally lies in what I call posers/abusers there are only there for causing pain and taking advantage

Very well put Sir Russell there is a big difference between the dom/sub lifestyle and abuse....