On-line DOM or SUB? How does that work?

[J-Go]

Getting an on-line sub is an interesting concept although I'm not quite sure how it works, or if it's even something myself or my sub would be into. However I would love to know more about it. How does it work, how do you find a DOM or SUB etc...? Any feedback would be great. Anyone interested in engaging let me know.

Thanks all!

[Guest 91108]

There's a whole lot more to it than I'm putting into this post.

The whole online D/s relationship is based on the word and trust of another.
There are ways to ensure performance, webcam, vids etc. but if you have to have that component then to me it is lack of trust of words. With out that ... Why bother?

I have found online relationships to be difficult at best if one does not assume it crosses over into real life and is not merely an online game.
Does the Dom think and involve himself when he is not online?
Will there be or not be any real life contact to enhance the "online" part of the relationship.
How dedicated are both participants?
Do they have the time to give to it so both can have their needs met.
Yes, I said both. - If both are not having needs met where is the drive to continue it and have quality?
The two participants must have a dedication to the role that they are in.
The Dom should do follow thru and aftercare even if online.
* looks around at some*
The sub should not just write off tasks as well it is just online and they really would rather do x, y , or z.

I've even gone so far as to wonder would I have another online sub again.
The answer is yes ... but she will have to be a sub ... not just say it.

Those who live it.. know it.. and the online relationship is no less .
It is what you make of it.
Just be sure both wish to make the same thing of it.

[angelic.zest]

From a sub point of view-As Wolf stated o/l bdsm relationships should be based on the word "trust", as any relationship should be..If there's no trust, there's no point in even trying to start, build or carry on into something that probably wont last....Ive always tried to be friends first then move into something alil meaningful, to me and that other person...having an understanding about likes, dislikes, whats allowed, what isn't allowed should be talked about! "communication" is another key word for any relationship, so i feel some type of communication should be made from both parties involved...i.e. emails, IM's, PM's, phone(after trust is found)..just to name a few...
the Dom im speaking with atm, we are o/l i doubt it will go into r/t but we are slowly getting to know each other, he's a really nice and funny guy but if there wasn't some way for me to think about trusting him, i highty doubt i would even talk with him,,, LOL