From a sub point of view-As Wolf stated o/l bdsm relationships should be based on the word "trust", as any relationship should be..If there's no trust, there's no point in even trying to start, build or carry on into something that probably wont last....Ive always tried to be friends first then move into something alil meaningful, to me and that other person...having an understanding about likes, dislikes, whats allowed, what isn't allowed should be talked about! "communication" is another key word for any relationship, so i feel some type of communication should be made from both parties involved...i.e. emails, IM's, PM's, phone(after trust is found)..just to name a few...
the Dom im speaking with atm, we are o/l i doubt it will go into r/t but we are slowly getting to know each other, he's a really nice and funny guy but if there wasn't some way for me to think about trusting him, i highty doubt i would even talk with him,,, LOL