As it so happens, I've been going through the same changes in losing my submission since my father passed away a little over a year ago. My Wife & I had let things slide, to the point where She even asked me if I wanted to continue to be submissive. I did, but wasn't able to focus the way I should have been doing.

Well the 1st anniversary of my dad's death was this past Monday. After I got through that day it was like a huge weight had been lifted off of me. Yesterday my Wife & I had a very long talk, (at my instigation). I told Her I wanted to get back to where we had been & grow from there. I apologized for not being the submissive husband that She deserved & that I had once been. I also asked Her to punish me this weekend, if She wished to, for my failures the past year. I told Her that I felt I needed to be punished, not just to atone for my failings, but to help me regain the proper focus. She has also become more exacting & strict in managing me, & in providing the proper structure that I need to thrive in as her loving submissive.

Last year was very bad for both of us as to deaths in the family. besides my dad, She lost Her favorite aunt & Her grandmother last year, so we kind of got into a funk & things began to slide. It happens, though not usually as long as it did for us. The keys are communication, understanding, & patience on both the D/M & the sub's parts to right a wayward D/s relationship.