I think, being honest about your feelings to-for him....in other words, just discussions, will carry you far. Tell him about your confusion of feelings, and whether you 'need' more 'aftercare' or time before hand to 'set up' the mood.

Admittedly, being put into sub-mode, does make one have strong feelings towards the Dom(me) that puts you there. Perhaps, you can explain that to him also, should you get the wrong feedback from him.