The proper way to tell kids about sex isn't to wait untill 8-10-12-etc for "the talk". First of all it's usually embarassing & uncomfortable to sit down & have "the talk" & past about 10-12 or so, it's usually too late, as they will learn from their peers, the internet, etc. The key is to answer their questions as they ask them at different ages, using an easily understood, accurate & age/maturity appropriate response of course.

I find it sadly ironic that people in this lifestyle still have hangups about telling their kids about sex because they feel the kid isn't at the "right age". There is no "right age", thought there is a "right time", as stated above.

Now I do understand the need to not want to explain one's BDSM proclivities. There discretion is a good idea until the kid is old enough to understand it, if ever. Some private things should stay private.

I started puberty at age 10 & was somewhat sexually preccocious regarding my own body & sexuality then because of that. Luckily my parents had taken the time to answer my questions before then & explained in ways I could relate to about the changes I would be going through. Keep in mind that I'm 46, so puberty hit me 36 years ago, when most people still were very uncomfortable discussing sex with anyone. Sad to see that seems to still have some prevalence even now.