Quote Originally Posted by delia View Post
Oooof... not necessarily. First off, welts are created by the force of the impact, when blood capillaries under the epidermis break. Second, how much someone bruises depends on a LOT of biochemical & other factors--in other words, not everyone bruises the same way or the same amount.

Most of the time, only the VERY VERY experienced should even ATTEMPT to leave a mark--many inexperienced folks leave marks that are an indication of poor skill, rather then precision. This is a commonly misunderstood part of impact play. Breaking more blood capillaries doesn't mean the play was "better" or "harder" necessarily.

If you ARE attempting to leave a mark & you are well versed in impact play (VERY experienced), I might suggest a cane, or another type of implement that has a much sharper, narrower impact zone. A paddle generally will leave the ass nice & red & sore, but won't mark, because it's larger, designed to heat, not designed to mark.

Good luck & play safe,

delia
I don't mean to hijack this thread, and I am sorry if this should be posted elsewhere on its own, but I am curious how one becomes well versed enough to leave a mark. It seems I don't mark easily, but I don't want permanent damage because of lack of experience. Any advice would be much appreciated, but I must say in advance that he doesn't share me. I'd much prefer him to be the one leaving the marks anyway. Thanks in advance!