having read the comments there isn't a lot that hasn't been said, but still, i'll just say my bit..
to me physical pain is very much connected to pleasure and, at times, not always, lack of it works towards lack of pleasure. i however connect it to the emotional, psychological if you want, aspect of it: if i am getting pain in order to be punished, i can't enjoy it, even if i wanted to or tried.
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It does help though have control over her with just a look or word that lets her know she has disappointed me.
i find that extremely true, i feel bad enough for disappointing before we get to the point of physical punishment--thus my psychic won't allow me to enjoy it. however, a smile, a look, or the tone of voice would easily change that.

pain--just for the sake of it i looked up the word, i found its synonyms: torture, misery, torment. Pain, ache, agony, anguish are terms for sensations causing suffering or torment. Pain and ache usually refer to physical sensations. i could easily add to that list: exhilaration, pleasure, orgasm, exhaustion. it leaves the body weak (it can also leave your psychic weak) but at the end of the day it can make you feel fulfilled, complete.
i don't want to appear overly philosophical or what not, but it's the complete yin and yang here (done consensually of course). one gives, the other receives leading to completion.

but, hey, that's just me