Thanks for that FF, it's most helpful. I think I will pass on your experiences to Mistress and see if she thinks they might be of use in our exploration.

I do see my Mistress in r/l, but not very often. Once every 6 weeks or so for a night out (ususally with other friends), but there have only been about 6 complete nights in over a year. I knowhow different a r/l meeting is - oh boy do I couldn't sit down comfortably for a week after the first one!!

jad