your take on the difference between Top, Dom, or Master and bottom, sub and slave

[Alex Bragi]

After 35 years in the life as a Dom, my newbee slave said I was the most terrific top she has known and thought it was a wonderful compliment, but I was insulted.

Sir Russell, you hot old dom you, why be offended by your sweet submissive's exuberance? Why not instead bask in what was meant as a kindness and a compliment?

Being labelled as this or that may help others to ascertain what you needs are, and it may even give you a better sense of identity of who you are. Beyond that, however, labelling surely doesn't validate who or what someone is in reality, does it? "A rose by any other name…" And, a good dom by any other name, is still a good dom.

And, there's that damned 'player' word again. "Player" the scourge of the bdsm world. But, what exactly is a 'player'. Is it like, someone who enjoys bdsm, but who really isn't in to it? *g

And, Tojo, you rock!