Quote Originally Posted by nikita
Hi Sweet Alex.

I had to put in my 2 cents worth here. Switches are not that unique. Considering the ratio of doms to subs, it is almost a forgone conclusion that there are more switches than you think.

Ozme, as you stated, the relationship a switch has with other tops or bottoms are assumed based on the other person's orientation. In other words, the switch slides into the position that the other person needs. NOT SO.

The communion of two souls is determined by the feedback they give each other. I don't know of any switch who doesn't say, 'It takes a special person to top me.'

Switches are assertive. Still, if they congregate together, the more dominant ones become evident and top the more submissive ones. Then it becomes a game of tag.

Switching between being a top or a bottom is not an easy thing. It takes a period of time which varies from switch to switch.

Switching with the same person is absolutely fikked, rare, and can happen if both parties work at it.

It is also a fallacy for most kinsters to say I am a switch because it depends on the kinks they fancy. Some of the kinks are considered bottom kinks. So, it is really not fair to oneself to pigeon hole or make that kind of declaration.

In other words, there are black and white versions of doms, and subs, but switches fall into the gray area. And switching is NOT for everyone.

My favorite observations of being a switch is, 'it's like having your cake and eating it too."

Nikita, I'm not sure if you refuted what I said or merely stated what I was sloppily thinking more precisely... Which means I'm confused. But that may be understandable because I don't really understand the switch mentality/psyche.