Well for those who don't know, I was the lucky girl who got to spend the week with Tojo. As he says, we talked for a long time, and I had very, very clear expectations as to what to expect. Of course, I still could have met him and decided it wasn't for me, but that didn't happen.

To me, the fact we had talked so much was a big plus for me. I knew he wanted a whole lot more than just some kinky fun! Not that we didn't have that, but we also walked on the beach and had some great chats.

I do worry when people are fast to want to meet, especially when one of the people are new to the lifestyle. Sure it might be great, but there are too many horror stories out there too. I think you have to trust your gut instincts. I trusted Tojo right from the start, but still it was to our benefit to make sure we were ready. If someone is not willing to give the relationship time to grow before they meet someone, that is not a good sign!