Thanks for your stories guys- it's always good to hear how people meet.

Actually the thread isn't meant to be just about safety, more making the first meeting go smoothly with a little preparation. A relationship has much more chance of working out if you don't jump blindly into it.....usually.

One thing I don't think anyone's mentioned, is that when someone is pushing you to meet them, that's not a good sign. Blatantly obvious perhaps, but sometimes people forget that if someone is genuine, they won't rush you. Not ever.

Thanks for the point about talking on the phone first Lily- I'd forgotten A/G & I had many phone chats before we met.

One thing I've noticed over the years is that some people can be themselves a lot more than others online. Some either can't or won't relax & just be 'me.'

That's a point I make with my girls, D/s won't work if you're playing a part- you need to relax & be yourself- & hope to hell the other person is doing the same!