For once I disagree with you Brosco.

I don't think anyone's down on Mr.D - just trying to help them both out. Anyway Mrs.D did say :

I understand that some of the time and some of the things are abusive, and we have been working to reduce
Many relationships have a little abuse in them- I once told my wife to 'shut up' (many years ago I might add!)

As with most things it takes two to tango, & two to work it out. I kept hearing about the 'shut up' incident for something like 10 years after it happened! It was just her way of saying it was unacceptable.

To me it sounds as if our humble attempts at understanding the situation are helping a little.

I make no apology for believing that many D/s relationships are abusive. I'm a pretty gentle sort of guy where women are concerned, many people in straight or kinky relationships seem way overboard.

That's why I usually say it's just my opinion- no one knows what's really going on with someone else, not even them sometimes!

Hope you get it all worked out guys & hey- nothing wrong with being a sex addict!

Tojo