First this is the wrong forum for your thread. Hopefully a mod will move this to the correct place where you will get a lot more responses.
Second you should first both take the my questionaire on bdsm found here http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=9385

One is for Dom/me one is for sub each of you list and rate your desires.

once taken they will give you both ideas and a way to compare not just desired kink but what each persons limits are.