A good question Tojo. I think it depends on how long ago we discoverd the fun perversity living in us. Those of us that found BDSM before the internet rage probably had to be more creative than those lucky folks who discovered it afterwards.

I've learned some things from the internet, but most of my knowledge comes from life with partners. Sometimes I'd just make up something right there on the spot. It's always fun trying to be in control and ultra-confident when walking through new territory. lol

It's not surprising that I've seen the things I thought were my own ideas all over the place since finding the online scene. I mean there are only so many things we can do and if it occurs to me in the middle of a scene it's bound to have occured to somebody else some other time.