I've not confided in any vanilla friends and relatives to any large degree. One friend - I kind of hinted at it and she made a weird face so I took that as a sign that this particular topic is off-limits. The only other friend - I simply said that I was discovering my submissive side. Her response? "I can see that in you." Shocked me, I must say. We haven't talked about it since, which is okay. That's it for my vanilla revelations...except to my husband of course, who still, after more than a year, has no idea what to do with "submissive me".