does anyone here ever want to jump in when subs new to it all are not sure how to 'act'.or are too nervous and feel silly admitting that its all new to them.

im asking because there have been many occasions ive come across people who after reading all the hype and crap on the net believe they have to act in a certain way.we've all been there,and sometimes commonsense just doesnt prevail.

calling everyone Master/Mistress, offering anything and everything both sexual and non,regardless of what they really want or feel simply because they believe they have to.
then generally end up doubting themselves because they find that they feel intimidated and couldnt possibly live up to that and bowing out without ever finding what it really is all about.

then there are those that end up being ignored by genuine people in the lifestyle and dismissed because they believe them to be wannabees and cheap thrill seekers.
and often end up pounced on by the i am Dom/me hear me roar clueless idiots or even worse find themselves,getting hurt, in abusive or dangerous situations or relationships.

i always wish i could say something and try to enlighten (probably the wrong term to use) them a little,but know i cant unless asked and many wont out of shyness nervousness embarrasment...a whole number of reasons ....because they'll probably think im being some pushy interfering know all and ignore anything i might try to say,and it isnt my place to do it.
im not saying im an expert or know whats best,because im not and i dont believe that anyone is as such and we're all different and need different things.

i know there's 'mentors' out there although im not sure how many are actually genuine and whether its a good idea,you cant really teach anyone in reality, and anyway most new-comers often dont know there is such a thing.

a long winded post i know,but havnt you ever been in this position and feel so frustrated at times when you have to bite you're tongue and stay quiet? or do you just jump in and try tactfully to point them in the right direction?