amber,

You are right in what you are doing remind J that you are a reflection of him at all times. Due to that I expect mine to dress better then others do and that is part of the whole package. She will have the proper amount of make up on she will be respectful of all and she will never act in a manner that would be embarrassing to me.

Remember though that I don't require her to be respectful or behave in a lady like toward someone that has proven themselves to not be respectful to her.

I tip my hat to slaves that feel as you do and back it up with the proper actions.