Subbie Class (Or Lack Thereof).

[GearJammer]

mastersgem started a delightful little thread on, well, the threads we sport as Lifestylers: what is classy and what leaves some "room for improvement?" This got me to thinking about the choices we subbies make in regard to our wardrobe.

Now, I'm not talking about the outfits (or lack thereof) that we put together for play, I mean what we choose to wear when we go out in public either with or without our Doms.

I find, these days, that I am very conscious of what I put on and how I present myself. J has made requests for certain outfits He likes now and again, but even when left to my own devices I look in the mirror and find myself asking what Master would think. At first this caused Him to raise an eyebrow: you see, I would make a special attempt to look a little classier, a little sexier, a little more whatever-the-occasion-called-for and He would wonder at the need for the extra effort. Who was I trying to get to pay attention? He was ALREADY paying very close attention to me, right? Indeed, I agreed, He was. However, there was something very satisfying to me to be able to walk in to a room, turn a few heads, then walk over to Master and lay my head on his shoulder and have Him loop an arm around my waist and have the whole room know that I look like that for HIM. Not so much that I care what the room thinks, but that I always want J to know he can be proud of me anywhere he takes me. Same scenario when we attend business functions together. I am always a step above my normal game with Master in the room, and beyond that, He can almost always be certain I am wearing audatious underwear underneath my most solemn business attire. Nope, those aren't simply black nylons, those are thigh highs and garters...

So my question to the Doms and subbies is thus: is there something you wear or a certain way you present yourself outside of the bedroom specifically for your significant other? What? And why?

Great post, as usual, Amber hun - and I do think there is much merit to be put on a submissive who knows how to 'class' it up for their Master - nothing quite like a class act woman who can show a room what that means, turn a few heads and then show that it is for one and one only. One would think it would make a Master very proud to have such a submissive that only he owns, knowing she can outshine a room and it will be him taking her home and enjoying the wanton submissive she is for only him *winks*

for myself, it isn't pretty underthings but lack thereof hehe - wearing a beautiful, clingy, flowing dress, completely elegant from head to toe and only he knows there is that small bit of wanton just a piece of sheer cloth away hehe can make for wild teasing lol

Once again, as on other subjects, I see attitude here above action... what one wishes to accomplish above what is actually accomplished.

Amber and mgem wish to show the observers how much their Master/Dom/Sir is worth to them, to elevate their Master in the view of the observers by their appearance and conduct.

J sees what Amber does in light of J himself, as though her actions were all aimed directly, rather than indirectly via the observers. For the sake of conversation, I'll assume mgem's Master sees similarly.

That leads to a communication point. IF one accepts that attitude means more than action... that why something is being done means more than what is done... then one should be sure to understand the attitude, the why.

Lest anyone wonder about my avatar "Results, not excuses" in light of what I just wrote, remember that results accomplished in any old way are not "results," they are consequences. "Results" are good outcomes, accomplished with honor and good attitudes and reasons.

Just my view, for what it's worth.

Gear