Quote Originally Posted by GearJammer{kuriouspet} View Post
Next, what I meant by attitude.... I referred to your attitude as shown by your reasoning. You wish, as you said, to reflect well on your Master, and you reason out your preparation, your dressing, and your appearance on that basis, on that attitude. That is as opposed to wishing to show yourself off well for yourself, as an unattached woman might honorably do, which might lead you to the same care in preparation, dressing, and appearance.

I hope I was clear. Feel free to ask anything if I was not or if you want further.

In the end, if my little one appeared to meet me (we are in a similar situation to you and J) in a burlap sack, but she had good reasoning for doing so, I would respond totally differently than if she did not have good reasoning for doing so. I train for her mind to respond properly (and for me, that means clear, sensible, defendable decision making), and I simply know that her body will naturally follow.

Gear.
I would actually like clarification on one point, and that is this line, "That is as opposed to wishing to show yourself off well for yourself, as an unattached woman might honorably do, which might lead you to the same care in preparation, dressing, and appearance."

I am not of the mind that reflecting well on my Master is in opposition to wishing to show myself off well. J and I have been together for just over a year. Prior to knowing Him, I still took a great deal of time and care in making sure I presented myself well. I take pride in my appearance now, but this is not a new developement. What I add to the mix for J's sake, is a sexier pair of underwear, perhaps garters, perhaps a a lipstick that is just a shade deeper red -- no more or less pride than what I had before, just custom tailored a touch to make Master smile.

I feel nothing reflects better on my Master than my being a quality person, with or without Him. At this point in my life, doing something for me and doing something for Him tends to be a merging pleasure rather than being points in opposition to each other.

Perhaps I was not clear on that point?

Let me know, I do love a thread that leads to good discussion.

Regards, Amber.