I've just discovered this excellent thread- very well put Tessa.

I can't sit here & read the whole 5 pages, but I hope someone pointed out that submission is a journey into the unknown. Somewhat like closing your eyes & jumping off a cliff- hoping the one you're trusting your life to knows what he's doing, & also hoping you'll be OK if he doesn't!

Feelings can come up like never before, whole chunks of sadness & terror can be uncovered in the journey. It can be likened to going into therapy.

I'd be hesitant myself- Doms might sound good & look impressive sometimes, but to be a true sub & just let go of everything- that amazes the hell out of me.