And then approach someone that appeals to you. I know it's sort of backward, asking the sub to be the initiator... but as a number of us have noted, both here and elsewhere on the forums, you need to be wary of the predators.

That makes it difficult to weed out the 'grain from the chaff" among those that approach you.

So find someone who you find appealing and see if they're available or open to taking you on...