Young sub troubles

[tydnchaynz{NSXX}]

i believe that a BDSM relationship is no different from any other. Take care of yourself, be yourself, enjoy your friends and family, and when you least expect it...good things will happen. My experience has been that the harder you look, the more elusive it seems. A bit like the watched pot never boiling *chuckles*. Take this oppurtunity to learn about yourself and your needs so that when that special someone does come along, you'll be ready for Him/Her.

[icey]

The truth is that I have all ways been able to spot the submissive lovely lady and if she is not married then the nerd is going to have trouble.

Many of the woman I have been with didn't know they were submissives before they met me.

this is so true, and the opposite too. subs tend automatically to 'spot' the Doms often without realising it or often bring out the Dominant side of people who dont yet realise it.

the downside to it is they often veer towards abusive people too.
im not sure that subs dont go out as often TomOfSweden but they are certainly more passive and much less likely to approach someone they're attracted to, but we're also often much better than our friends at flirting subtly which most men seem to prefer.

sometimes a good place to hang out can be gay clubs surprisingly as they tend to know many people or places for people to go in the lifestyle,both straight and gay.
people are generally more friendly and many take the effort to get to know the more submissive people perhaps its because they can recognise and empathise with that feeling of being slightly 'different'.

not much help sorry and as everyone else has said there's no rush and you're still young get out and enjoy yourself

note i used the term gay although most of my gay male friends were forever calling themselves and each other fags,bitches and queers lol and the women generally referred to themselves as lemons and lezzies.