Congratulations orangeblossoms, & a very good question indeed.
Surprising as may sound, I really can't imagine a 24/7 D/s relationship, & nor could I imagine wanting one.
My wife is generally submissive towards me, but I couldn't imagine bondage & D/s being more than just part of a relationship.
The ideal sub for me, is a woman who's powerful & confident- but chooses to submit to me for a period of time. I believe in regular tasks & rituals, but can't get my head around being married to someone who sees me as her Master.
Geez it's bad enough now, I spend half my life encouraging my wife to be more confident & independant.
Please- no offence to all the lovely subs out there who are powerful & confident, & married to their Dom- I know it's possible!
I just can't imagine it- if my wife was taken by aliens, I can't imagine jumping into a D/s relationship that was every day of my life. It's a part of me, not my sole reason for living.