I think a willingness to communicate openly. To confirm to the possibly horrified but thrilled new Dom that she is ‘enjoying’ herself and what she is feeling. To give input as required into safety issues and aftercare.

Ideally to be able to talk about how what is common to most subs and how she is non typical, and how other subs might feel and respond.

She needs to feel confident enough in herself not to be shaken by the novice Dom’s possibly insensitive reactions, but sensitive enough to be able to encourage him.

cariad