Quote Originally Posted by cadence View Post
Are you saying Tom that a relationship cannot exist if there is no sexual satisfaction between two people when there should be?

I do know that you don't have to have sex to keep the relationship going. I know of a couple who are married, but have never consummated the marriage; he is not attracted to women, she is bisexual. They each play on the side. They are quite happy with each other.
But that's different. They're just friends.

Maybe I'm being narrow minded here. But D/s for me is sex. If one party is being dominated by another there's sex going on. Because if there's no sexual tension, the submissive will get bored and fuck off. Nobody enjoys just giving without getting anything back.