Fantasy Partners & the quick fix

[gemmy]

..."And I can read the desperation in T/their text in the chatroom and in the forums. That scares me, because when a person is desperate that keeps a person from choosing carefully and wisely. People sometimes don't realize just how easily it can be to get burned online and how deeply it can hurt when it happens to you. Patience is a very difficult thing to get past, but you need to have it when it comes to finding the right person online. It's not easy, but it can be done. Delia and Torq are living proof as are I and my Master, RedWraith"....

Thank you for saying this hun, it's so transparent sometimes and I hate seeing it, as much as I know I may be guilty of the same, as well.

Patience isn't a great submissive trait *winks knowingly*

But truly, it's all about time and 'feel'

[Tojo]

Nicely put delia. People often forget that BDSM or D/s is just a part of a relationship, & that they're dealing with another human being.

I've been rattling around kinky forums for years now, tied the odd breast harness & done online play with some nice girls. What I've learnt is that a relationship between two people that works is what's important.

Ask yourself- if you stopped the D/s play with your partner, whether online or in person, would you still get on? That's the way I gauge a D/s relationship. Would you marry someone just on the basis of a great sex life?

Ultimately we don't need someone else to make us happy. If that's the case, we may need to grow a little- desperation is NOT appealing!