Nicely put delia. People often forget that BDSM or D/s is just a part of a relationship, & that they're dealing with another human being.

I've been rattling around kinky forums for years now, tied the odd breast harness & done online play with some nice girls. What I've learnt is that a relationship between two people that works is what's important.

Ask yourself- if you stopped the D/s play with your partner, whether online or in person, would you still get on? That's the way I gauge a D/s relationship. Would you marry someone just on the basis of a great sex life?

Ultimately we don't need someone else to make us happy. If that's the case, we may need to grow a little- desperation is NOT appealing!