I agree that you need to take time and from personal expereince - that 'time' can sometimes be years!!
Don't give up, don't settle for second best and when the right one comes along - you will know
minxy x
Decades sometimes.....
Happy to support new (& experienced) subs/Doms in any way I can.
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'If you ain't where you're at, you're noplace'
Col. Potter M.A.S.H.