I also forgot to mention, there are a variety of other websites. One in particular which I have found to be very helpful for me in my initiation into the world of s&m/BDSM is http://www.mydungeonspace.com which has a wonderful collection of people and features. I'm sure there are other websites out there, but I can't speak to them as I have had no experience with them personally. I branched out a bit into ALT, but I haven't done a whole lot over there so can't really speak to how well that community works. Others have told me "not well" but I can't speak to that. Another often quoted location is collarme which seems to receive rather mixed reviews.